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The bus(y)ness of life & the magic of time


Over the last month or so I’ve been away quite a bit … a couple of weeks staying at an ashram on the edge of a forest; time with two little people up in the hills while their parents took their own time out; and most recently with precious friends by the beach, paddling in the sea and dozing peacefully beside two honey-coloured dogs, sprawled out in dappled sunlight on an airy wooden deck. I have been delighting in the challenges and transformations that have found their way out of this time. Time where I have been able to reflect, to ponder, to wonder … to sink more deeply into myself and create the space where mysteries have begun to unfold.

I’m rather a fan of the Greek notion of time. They have two words … chronos and kairos … that highlight the difference between deadlines, appointments, work structures and key performance indicators (chronos) and the magic and honouring place where time seems to stand still while we languish in the joy of being (kairos).

Giovanni, in Liz Gilbert’s Eat Love Pray (re-viewed in one of my kairos moments over this last weekend) spoke of the Italian ideal of ‘dolce far niente’ … the sweetness of doing nothing’, and these last weeks have allowed me the sublime pleasure of stepping off the treadmill of my chronos-driven existence, to savour the delicious reality of a simple and more contemplative life. Even while in the midst of the demands of my busy world, I have been able to find relief and sustenance in the simplicity of an uncomplicated and authentic existence.

In my moments of kairos over the next days and weeks, my challenge, and my delight, will be to continue to percolate some of the thoughts that have begun to emerge …

Take some time yourself … kairos time … to see what thoughts emerge that resonate more authentically for you …

The hero/heroine’s journey


The journey – of the hero, and the heroine – has been brought to my attention this week. It has popped up in conversation in a number of unrelated contexts, and appeared in the unlikeliest of places, stirring my thinking about the stories we applaud and celebrate.

In books, in the news and on the big screen, we see people – people just like us – who are faced with seemingly insurmountable odds, but who manage somehow to overcome, to conquer their fears and insecurities and find the courage to step forward.

I went to the theatre a few week ago to see a local community group present Man of La Mancha. You know the song – The Impossible Dream – do you know the story? It is about (my impression – apologies to those who have a different perspective) a wonderfully fanciful fellow, full of whimsy and hopeful expectation about life. Through his innocent eyes, the world takes on a magical quality, and his quest in life is to embrace and honour all that is good within those he meets. Through his childlike approach he manages to find the courage to rise above the mediocrity around him, avoiding the disappointments that life hurls at him, and through his indomitable spirit, finds his way to the light of his impossible dream.

My father used to sing The Impossible Dream. He died when I was eleven, and in my child’s mind I remember it as his signature song. When he sang it, everyone left what they were doing and came to listen, to imagine, and to walk, if only briefly, in the shoes of the hero on his quest.

We have such longing to become the hero/heroine that lies within us, and I’ve realised that the story of The Man of La Mancha holds the compassionate joy and inner grit that resonates for me. It speaks to me about my own journey – my own quest – to this point.

So I went searching to see what Google found, and have posted links (see Interesting Links) to a couple of intriguing sites. Have a look and tell me what comes to mind for you when you start to consider your own hero/heroine’s journey, and we will speak some more …

Claim authorship of your life


Welcome, and thankyou for visiting my page. I have lots of stories to share with you about life and living – about the journey of stretching and growing, and the transformative power of learning as we morph into the greatest version of ourselves.

I hope you will share your own stories with me as we journey through life together, on our path of becoming most fully ourselves …

“You need only claim the events of your life to make yourself yours.
When you truly possess all you have been and done,
which may take some time,
you are fierce with reality.”

                                                             Florida Scott-Maxwell (1968)